The birth of Rhonda Byrne's "The Secret" in 2006 raised such an awareness on the Law of Attraction. This led to more and more people realizing how powerful thoughts are in creating our physical reality.
Now more than ever, more and more people are putting up vision boards. Meditating few minutes a day. Saying affirmations before going to sleep. Listening to subliminal audios during sleep. Then... go about their routine and end up looking at crap for the rest of the day.
If you understand that your thoughts attract things, people and situations in your space, have you ever considered filtering your thoughts? Is that even possible? Various researches show that the average person thinks about 20,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. PER DAY! You can't even keep up counting those thoughts, what more to filter them!
An Excerpt on my "Train of Thought"
Let me give you a glimpse of my train of thought on my bus ride on the way to work. I usually have my earphones on, listening to my favorite radio program.
"I wonder which of my clients left me a voicemail today? Oh well, I'll finish what I owe (my client) after our meeting yesterday. Is that rain? I really need to buy a new pair of sandals so that I don't wear out my shoes too quickly. But then if I wanted to take Zumba classes, I should probably buy a pair of rubber shoes first. I wonder how much Zumba classes would cost each month? If I have lots of cash, I can buy BOTH shoes and sign up for Zumba all at the same time. I wonder how other people do it? But it's okay. There's my next paycheck and the upcoming bonus... I really hope I have more money everyday and not just have enough. Ooooh.... I haven't heard this song in a long time! Reminds me of... I wonder how he is? Whatever. And no, I'm not bitter... or am I? Sigh, I haven't seen a movie in a long time. I mean, in the cinema. But then again, there's always HBO. I wonder how the traffic is in EDSA? I'm never late for work anyway. I miss going to the mall on weekday afternoons and having my ME time! It's been years since I've last done that. See that building with green lights on top? That's where I'm getting off. It would be much easier to just fly there!"
I'm pretty sure what I wrote is more linear than what usually happens in my mind. The point is, that's how random our thoughts could be. More importantly, if all those thoughts would create my reality, could you see how crazy my life would be?
Ever since I got into ThetaHealing®, I found myself starting to be more conscious of my thoughts. I started learning how to notice my thoughts and realize "mid-sentence" if it's worth putting energy on or if it should stop dead in its tracks right then and there. I haven't mastered whatever it is I'm doing, but for me, it's a big step to being able to take control of my mind... and ultimately my life.
Eventually, I learned a few techniques that help me "mind my mind".
3 Ways to Mind Your Mind
1. Gratitude Prayer
I have previously written an entire blog post regarding gratitude, and I believe this is really powerful. Before going to bed at night, I make it a point to recall all the things that have transpired in the day and say thank you for all of them. From having awaken in the morning, to the safe commute to work, to the meals I have eaten, to having made it home, to the conversations I've had and what I have learned... everything! Even if the day seemed normal and nothing special happened, I still express my gratitude for the experiences of the day. This trained my mind to be thankful for all the things I have and experience in my life. Having the energy of gratitude in life brings in more things to be thankful for.
2. Symbol of Abundance
One of the main reasons people feel unhappy, lost and desperate is due to thoughts and feelings of lack. Many of us feel there's not enough of pretty much anything -- not enough money, not enough time, not enough food, not enough love, not enough energy, not enough men, not enough faith... not enough everything! And this is exactly why we manifest lack in our lives. We simply believe there's not enough of anything, therefore making it our reality.
I was walking to the bus stop on my way home from work one windy day. I have always loved windy days even if it messes my hair up! While walking against the wind I started feeling a weird sense of energy envelope my body. The wind became a reminder of what I have in my life. It made me realize, I do have plenty EVEN IF I DON'T SEE ALL OF THEM. From that point on, the wind became what I call my "symbol of abundance".
You can do the same thing too. And I suggest you pick out your symbol of abundance from nature -- the sun, the clouds, the sky, the wind, trees, flowers -- take your pick, and let it remind you of how abundant your life and the world is.
3. "I love them anyway"
A few days ago, I was doing a self-healing about being able to see the truth. I discovered that I feared seeing and knowing the truth about some people, things and even myself. I healed through the realization that it's okay to know the truth and still love, accept and embrace people around me. The next day, I was getting off the bus and the passenger behind me was pushing me in a hurry to get off. When I got off the bus, I looked at him (looked, not glared... for previously I would have surely done the former!). Then I thought to myself, "It's okay. I love him anyway."
This became an exercise for me, especially when I get into situations that would normally annoy me or downright piss me off. I do the "I love them anyway" exercise from my loved ones to random strangers. Doing so allows me to stop myself from passing judgment and harboring resentment to people for whatever reason.
I would highly recommend you try out these techniques, or come up with your own. Soon enough you'll be able to get into the habit of minding your mind, and become great in filtering thoughts that no longer serve you.
Friday, December 20, 2013
Thursday, December 5, 2013
What Forgiveness Is... and Is Not
A friend tells things to other people behind your back. Your parents forced you to take a college course that's the polar opposite of what you really wanted. Your boss grants to another colleague the promotion that was promised to you half a year ago.
Many times in our lives, there are people who would do things or say things to us that would cause us pain, hurt and even hatred towards that person. And when that happens, we start forming this force field around us to avoid going through the same experience over again. Then we share our anguish to some friends who will listen, sympathize and in the end will say, "That sucks. Well, what can you do? Just forgive them and move on."
Seriously? REALLY???? Forgive... and move on??? Isn't that exactly how we would respond to even the very thought of forgiving someone who has done damage to us?
What Forgiveness Is
Merriam Webster defines "forgive" as "to give up resentment of or claim requital for."
To let go of completely. To abandon. This is what it means to forgive someone in the truest sense of the word. In Bob Proctor's 11 Forgotten Laws program, I love how he defines forgiveness as "getting to the place where you think about the person and are able to wish them well."
At the bare minimum, forgiving someone is choosing to let go of your desire for any revenge or ill-will towards the person who has "wronged" you.
What Forgiveness Is NOT
I am almost certain that many people reading this are starting to fume inside, just thinking about the people who have hurt them in one way or another. Forgiving is simple -- just choose to release the pride, the hurt, the resentment (more on this later). But of course, simple doesn't normally mean easy.
Where do people usually get it wrong? There are a few misconceptions about forgiveness which makes it challenging for most people to do it.
1. Reconciliation precedes forgiveness.
"That insensitive ____ (insert cuss word here) didn't even bother to apologize!" Let's get this straight once and for all. Forgiving someone is not dependent on whether or not the other party would apologize. Sure, it would be so much easier to forgive if they did. Nevertheless, forgiveness is a choice. When you forgive, you free YOURSELF from the negative feelings right here, right now. You are prolonging the agony for no one but yourself if you choose otherwise. For all you know, that person could be living by the beach sipping pinacoladas all day, while you go to bed every night nursing your bitter heart!
2. Forgiving someone means letting them off the hook
When we get hurt, the next logical step is to make sure such experience never happens to us again... EVER. This "force field" we form around us comes in the form of resentment, grudge and even hatred towards the offender. These feelings keep us safe and protected. This is why many people are reluctant to forgive, because we feel that to forgive is to give up that force field. To excuse the person and minimize the harm that was done. To allow ourselves to be hurt again. The truth is, when you forgive, you open yourself up to better ways to "protect" yourself. You allow yourself to live a happier, lighter and healthier life.
It's worth pointing out that carrying feelings of resentment, grudge and hatred have now been scientifically proven to affect our physical health - most especially the lungs, heart, kidney and liver. These negative feelings are "toxins" in our bodies, so you might as well release them!
3. Forgiving is forgetting
I never really understood where we got this idea to put the two together - to "forgive and forget". And this is another one of the misconceptions that gives forgiveness a bitter taste in people's mouths. You see, forgiveness has nothing to do with having to forget it ever happened. Forgetting is denying something exists. So when you attempt to "forget" something ever hurt you, what you could potentially be doing is suppressing your emotions about it. And THAT is not the same thing at all as forgiving. Forgiveness is supposed to make you feel free, not suppressed.
The Person You Need to Forgive Most
More often than not, we fail to realize that more than learning to forgive the person who has hurt us, we need to learn to forgive OURSELVES. Our bitterness and resentment mostly comes from being unable to fathom how in the world we could have allowed it to happen to us!
Am I that stupid? Am I that ugly? How did I get myself in that tangled up situation? Why did I even think they'd be willing to love me that way? We would question ourselves like this in an effort to understand how we allowed ourselves to get hurt. And this is more dangerous. Blaming ourselves can be a bundle of sadness, regret and a whole lot of negativity. It's time to stop punishing and blaming yourself. Learn to accept yourself and realize that at the end of the day, what you did or happened to you does not define who you are.
Many times in our lives, there are people who would do things or say things to us that would cause us pain, hurt and even hatred towards that person. And when that happens, we start forming this force field around us to avoid going through the same experience over again. Then we share our anguish to some friends who will listen, sympathize and in the end will say, "That sucks. Well, what can you do? Just forgive them and move on."
Seriously? REALLY???? Forgive... and move on??? Isn't that exactly how we would respond to even the very thought of forgiving someone who has done damage to us?
What Forgiveness Is
Merriam Webster defines "forgive" as "to give up resentment of or claim requital for."
To let go of completely. To abandon. This is what it means to forgive someone in the truest sense of the word. In Bob Proctor's 11 Forgotten Laws program, I love how he defines forgiveness as "getting to the place where you think about the person and are able to wish them well."
At the bare minimum, forgiving someone is choosing to let go of your desire for any revenge or ill-will towards the person who has "wronged" you.
What Forgiveness Is NOT
I am almost certain that many people reading this are starting to fume inside, just thinking about the people who have hurt them in one way or another. Forgiving is simple -- just choose to release the pride, the hurt, the resentment (more on this later). But of course, simple doesn't normally mean easy.
Where do people usually get it wrong? There are a few misconceptions about forgiveness which makes it challenging for most people to do it.
1. Reconciliation precedes forgiveness.
"That insensitive ____ (insert cuss word here) didn't even bother to apologize!" Let's get this straight once and for all. Forgiving someone is not dependent on whether or not the other party would apologize. Sure, it would be so much easier to forgive if they did. Nevertheless, forgiveness is a choice. When you forgive, you free YOURSELF from the negative feelings right here, right now. You are prolonging the agony for no one but yourself if you choose otherwise. For all you know, that person could be living by the beach sipping pinacoladas all day, while you go to bed every night nursing your bitter heart!
2. Forgiving someone means letting them off the hook
When we get hurt, the next logical step is to make sure such experience never happens to us again... EVER. This "force field" we form around us comes in the form of resentment, grudge and even hatred towards the offender. These feelings keep us safe and protected. This is why many people are reluctant to forgive, because we feel that to forgive is to give up that force field. To excuse the person and minimize the harm that was done. To allow ourselves to be hurt again. The truth is, when you forgive, you open yourself up to better ways to "protect" yourself. You allow yourself to live a happier, lighter and healthier life.
It's worth pointing out that carrying feelings of resentment, grudge and hatred have now been scientifically proven to affect our physical health - most especially the lungs, heart, kidney and liver. These negative feelings are "toxins" in our bodies, so you might as well release them!
3. Forgiving is forgetting
I never really understood where we got this idea to put the two together - to "forgive and forget". And this is another one of the misconceptions that gives forgiveness a bitter taste in people's mouths. You see, forgiveness has nothing to do with having to forget it ever happened. Forgetting is denying something exists. So when you attempt to "forget" something ever hurt you, what you could potentially be doing is suppressing your emotions about it. And THAT is not the same thing at all as forgiving. Forgiveness is supposed to make you feel free, not suppressed.
The Person You Need to Forgive Most
More often than not, we fail to realize that more than learning to forgive the person who has hurt us, we need to learn to forgive OURSELVES. Our bitterness and resentment mostly comes from being unable to fathom how in the world we could have allowed it to happen to us!
Am I that stupid? Am I that ugly? How did I get myself in that tangled up situation? Why did I even think they'd be willing to love me that way? We would question ourselves like this in an effort to understand how we allowed ourselves to get hurt. And this is more dangerous. Blaming ourselves can be a bundle of sadness, regret and a whole lot of negativity. It's time to stop punishing and blaming yourself. Learn to accept yourself and realize that at the end of the day, what you did or happened to you does not define who you are.
Monday, November 18, 2013
A Better Way to SEIZE THE DAY
Carpe Diem.
We've heard that before. Book after book, movie after movie, they tell us that the key to living life to the fullest is to seize every moment. And when we are told to seize the day, we then hear the infamous saying "Live each day as though it were the last."
I have not given it much thought until now, how living as though it's your last day on earth can do more harm than good. You know how in horror or suspense thriller films, we couldn't help but scream "RUN!" to the character on screen? Or during that post-movie conversations we would say things like "She should have run to the garden instead of locking herself inside the closet. Of course she was caught. Duh!"
We can easily dismiss that by saying it's all fiction anyway, and that if we were in their place we would do something a lot smarter. But did it ever occur to you that when you are faced with death, you literally FREEZE?
Here's the thing. If you knew it was your last day today, would going door to door to each of your loved ones to say "I love you" be your utmost agenda? I doubt it. But you will think of spending all the money on your savings account. Eat all the ice cream you can eat. Finally pull that prank on your boss... heck, why would you even come to work on your last day on earth?
Is THAT how you ought to live your life everyday?
The problem with this thinking is not about acting as if there's no tomorrow. The problem is you're acting as if there will be no consequences for what you do today. What's worse, you won't even seek to accomplish anything that would take more than a day to finish. You will not deal with what it takes to make your dreams come true. Who has the time? It's your last day!
Living your life as if today's your last day brings nothing but fear, sadness and regret. It takes away from us the desire to plan ahead, set goals, pursue dreams. What if your best friend invites you to his wedding. Would you make the necessary preparations or say "Sorry, dude. I'm not sure I can go. What if I die tomorrow?"
Okay, maybe those are exaggerated and silly examples. The point is, what if we consider reversing this process and be well on our way to living our life to the fullest?
First Day High
Imagine the first time you ever tasted what is now your favorite dish in the world? Now think about how you would feel having it for the last time? Do you see the difference?
When I was a kid, one of my crazy thoughts (and I had many!) is that I would wait for my life to "start over" so that I can do the things I want and fulfill my dreams. I don't even know what exactly I meant by that. Perhaps I'm thinking that if God gave me a remote control with nothing but one big REWIND button, I could go all the way back to the day I was born and would do everything differently from day one. Sadly, I never manifested the remote control.
Point is, I think we would all benefit from living our life as though it's our first day, our first time in everything.
Live your life as though it's starting today. If you do, you'll start that project of writing a book or planning for the trip to climb Mount Everest. You'll finally enroll in the dance class or start the hobby you've been putting off. You will start taking the steps to find your dream home.
When you're beginning something, it puts you in a perspective of learning, of starting anew, of looking ahead. You will be looking at things with excitement, with wonder, with amazement. You'll feel thankful for a new chapter in your life.
This is how we ought to live our day to day lives -- with something fresh to look forward to. Today can be the day you choose to quit a nasty habit. Today could be the day you decide to lose the extra weight once and for all. Today could be the day you start the project that would catapult your career. Today could be the day you face what you've always feared and finally overcome it. Today could be the day you let go of your bottled up feelings and tell someone you loved them.
Today should be lived from a place of aiming to accomplish something that impacts your life. After all, doesn't it feel amazing to say "Today is the first day of the rest of my life"?
We've heard that before. Book after book, movie after movie, they tell us that the key to living life to the fullest is to seize every moment. And when we are told to seize the day, we then hear the infamous saying "Live each day as though it were the last."
I have not given it much thought until now, how living as though it's your last day on earth can do more harm than good. You know how in horror or suspense thriller films, we couldn't help but scream "RUN!" to the character on screen? Or during that post-movie conversations we would say things like "She should have run to the garden instead of locking herself inside the closet. Of course she was caught. Duh!"
We can easily dismiss that by saying it's all fiction anyway, and that if we were in their place we would do something a lot smarter. But did it ever occur to you that when you are faced with death, you literally FREEZE?
Here's the thing. If you knew it was your last day today, would going door to door to each of your loved ones to say "I love you" be your utmost agenda? I doubt it. But you will think of spending all the money on your savings account. Eat all the ice cream you can eat. Finally pull that prank on your boss... heck, why would you even come to work on your last day on earth?
Is THAT how you ought to live your life everyday?
The problem with this thinking is not about acting as if there's no tomorrow. The problem is you're acting as if there will be no consequences for what you do today. What's worse, you won't even seek to accomplish anything that would take more than a day to finish. You will not deal with what it takes to make your dreams come true. Who has the time? It's your last day!
Living your life as if today's your last day brings nothing but fear, sadness and regret. It takes away from us the desire to plan ahead, set goals, pursue dreams. What if your best friend invites you to his wedding. Would you make the necessary preparations or say "Sorry, dude. I'm not sure I can go. What if I die tomorrow?"
Okay, maybe those are exaggerated and silly examples. The point is, what if we consider reversing this process and be well on our way to living our life to the fullest?
First Day High
Imagine the first time you ever tasted what is now your favorite dish in the world? Now think about how you would feel having it for the last time? Do you see the difference?
When I was a kid, one of my crazy thoughts (and I had many!) is that I would wait for my life to "start over" so that I can do the things I want and fulfill my dreams. I don't even know what exactly I meant by that. Perhaps I'm thinking that if God gave me a remote control with nothing but one big REWIND button, I could go all the way back to the day I was born and would do everything differently from day one. Sadly, I never manifested the remote control.
Point is, I think we would all benefit from living our life as though it's our first day, our first time in everything.
Live your life as though it's starting today. If you do, you'll start that project of writing a book or planning for the trip to climb Mount Everest. You'll finally enroll in the dance class or start the hobby you've been putting off. You will start taking the steps to find your dream home.
When you're beginning something, it puts you in a perspective of learning, of starting anew, of looking ahead. You will be looking at things with excitement, with wonder, with amazement. You'll feel thankful for a new chapter in your life.
This is how we ought to live our day to day lives -- with something fresh to look forward to. Today can be the day you choose to quit a nasty habit. Today could be the day you decide to lose the extra weight once and for all. Today could be the day you start the project that would catapult your career. Today could be the day you face what you've always feared and finally overcome it. Today could be the day you let go of your bottled up feelings and tell someone you loved them.
Today should be lived from a place of aiming to accomplish something that impacts your life. After all, doesn't it feel amazing to say "Today is the first day of the rest of my life"?
Sunday, November 17, 2013
Lessons in Giving
It's been a week since typhoon Yolanda (Haiyan) has devastated the central part of the Philippines. Everyday, there's only two major things I see on the news and on my Facebook wall - the damage done by the typhoon and the aid that has been coming in to the affected areas from all over the world.
There's also a lot of mixed reactions regarding the donations and help the Philippines has been getting:
The Energy of Giving
One of the common topics on the spiritual books I have read is about giving. More specifically, the lesson that "The best way to have something you desire is to cause another to have it."
There's a reason why we grew up being taught that it is better to give than to receive. The universe is all energy. All energy flows. When you give, you become a conduit to this energy flow, which ultimately comes back to you, MAGNIFIED. When you give, you are sending a signal to the universe that you acknowledge your abundance, that you are grateful for the things you have. Keep in mind that gratitude is the most potent of all prayers, because you are expressing your knowing that before you even ask, it is already given.
What Can You Give?
Giving does not only pertain to material things. It's not just money or clothes or food. You can give your time. You can give a compliment. You can give your precious smile or hug. You can give "a hand".
Furthermore, "causing another to have it" doesn't mean you give "it" in actuality. For example, what if you desire to become a millionaire? Do you need to give away one million pesos? No. But in your quest to become one, you have gained knowledge, experience and insights that you can share and pass on to other people and help them become millionaires too! Remember that the universe us abundant and limitless. There's more than enough millions for everyone who wish to have it.
Now, just because there's a lot of different ways and forms of giving doesn't mean you would simply "take your pick." It's sad to say that many us can and will only give only when it is convenient. We give the beggar on the street change that only supermarkets would accept. We give away old clothes not because we no longer use them, but because we no longer could. We give a smile to the guy in the elevator because he looks cute, but not to the man on the bus who "looks like a snatcher".
Also, do not feel giving a smile is enough when you know in your heart that you can give more than that, and when you know the other person needs more than that. Remember the Golden Rule? "Do unto others as you would want others do unto you." When you choose to help, what kind of help would YOU appreciate if you were in their shoes?
Give From The Heart
Is there really such a thing as a selfless deed? Really, would anyone go out and help another if you're not getting anything out of it?
I personally do not believe that there's any deed that is selfless. However, I also believe there's only ONE SELF-SERVING REASON that would indicate you're giving from the heart -- that you give because of the JOY it brings to you.
It is perfectly okay to know and expect that you will be rewarded by the universe when you give. The mistake most of us make in this whole giving business is when we expect:
You see, there's no need to "keep score". The universe does this for you, and does so in a much better way. Your only job is to give from the heart. The universe will take care of your reward in the most perfect time in the most perfect way.
So how do we give from the heart? Watch and be inspired...
There's also a lot of mixed reactions regarding the donations and help the Philippines has been getting:
"On behalf of the whole country, thank you!"
"What about the people in this or that province?"
"The government is not doing enough (or moving fast enough)."
"I wonder if the donations are going directly to the typhoon victims?"I am not writing this to refute or defend any of these sentiments. To some degree, I can sympathize and understand them. What bothers me is that, in the face of this national calamity, many people are quick to criticize and complain but not do anything to help. This gets me thinking about how much value we put nowadays on the virtue of giving. At this point, let me step away from the typhoon situation so as not to fan an already big flame.
The Energy of Giving
One of the common topics on the spiritual books I have read is about giving. More specifically, the lesson that "The best way to have something you desire is to cause another to have it."
There's a reason why we grew up being taught that it is better to give than to receive. The universe is all energy. All energy flows. When you give, you become a conduit to this energy flow, which ultimately comes back to you, MAGNIFIED. When you give, you are sending a signal to the universe that you acknowledge your abundance, that you are grateful for the things you have. Keep in mind that gratitude is the most potent of all prayers, because you are expressing your knowing that before you even ask, it is already given.
What Can You Give?
Giving does not only pertain to material things. It's not just money or clothes or food. You can give your time. You can give a compliment. You can give your precious smile or hug. You can give "a hand".
Furthermore, "causing another to have it" doesn't mean you give "it" in actuality. For example, what if you desire to become a millionaire? Do you need to give away one million pesos? No. But in your quest to become one, you have gained knowledge, experience and insights that you can share and pass on to other people and help them become millionaires too! Remember that the universe us abundant and limitless. There's more than enough millions for everyone who wish to have it.
Now, just because there's a lot of different ways and forms of giving doesn't mean you would simply "take your pick." It's sad to say that many us can and will only give only when it is convenient. We give the beggar on the street change that only supermarkets would accept. We give away old clothes not because we no longer use them, but because we no longer could. We give a smile to the guy in the elevator because he looks cute, but not to the man on the bus who "looks like a snatcher".
Also, do not feel giving a smile is enough when you know in your heart that you can give more than that, and when you know the other person needs more than that. Remember the Golden Rule? "Do unto others as you would want others do unto you." When you choose to help, what kind of help would YOU appreciate if you were in their shoes?
Give From The Heart
Is there really such a thing as a selfless deed? Really, would anyone go out and help another if you're not getting anything out of it?
I personally do not believe that there's any deed that is selfless. However, I also believe there's only ONE SELF-SERVING REASON that would indicate you're giving from the heart -- that you give because of the JOY it brings to you.
It is perfectly okay to know and expect that you will be rewarded by the universe when you give. The mistake most of us make in this whole giving business is when we expect:
- The reward to come from the same person we gave to
- The reward to come in the same form that we gave away
You see, there's no need to "keep score". The universe does this for you, and does so in a much better way. Your only job is to give from the heart. The universe will take care of your reward in the most perfect time in the most perfect way.
So how do we give from the heart? Watch and be inspired...
Monday, November 11, 2013
Yo, Tell Me What You Want, What You Really Really Want
To those of you who know me, you probably guessed I am continuing that Spice Girls song in my head!
And here I am again, using the word "want" when I really aim to speak about desire. But hey, for lack of a better title, I am satisfied with that.
Your calling. Life purpose. Our heart's desire. Ambition in life. These are some of the many things we call that which we feel we were meant to do in this life and for this world. How many of us have ever given that a thought? We surely want certain things - our daily latte, a cozy Friday night, a house, a car, our soulmate. Most of the things we would like to have seem so easy to know. But do you know what it is that you really, really… really choose to have or become?
Last weekend, I volunteered for a free ThetaHealing® clinic in the center where I practice. When my first client sat down in front of me, I asked her what brought her to the clinic. The first thing she said was, "I need to find my life's purpose. Help me."
I was amazed by her statement. That was probably the first time I ever heard someone bravely pronounce that they are on a quest to find what they're meant to do in this life. She began to cry as she told me her story, and I could feel the sense of determination and certainty in her that screams "I know I am meant to do something in this world."
The Mouse Trap
Most people go through the daily grind - get up, go to work, work some more, go home, sleep. Many people would even stay for years in a job that they don't really find fulfilling, they don't feel they're good at, or they simply hate. Why do we do this?
The obvious reason for most of us is money. We work in order to provide for our families or buy the things we want. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But what if you can get to a point in your life where you are getting paid to do what you love to do? Isn't that an option you'd like to have?
I used to be in different jobs for the sole purpose of earning money, while at the back of my mind thinking to myself "what do I really choose to do in this life?". I later realized that I have this subconscious program that the source of my life fulfillment and my income should be two separate things! Thankfully, I have cleared that with ThetaHealing®. Moreover, I had a greater realization.
What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?
When we were kids, this question seems to be our parents' gauge on how smart we're going to be, or if we've "decided" on our life's path at a very young age. And as innocent, cute little children, we would answer the question:
Your World Speech
I read this exercise in an article before and I feel it's worth sharing. What if God gave you a microphone and for 1 minute you can make a speech in front of the whole world? Yes, the whole world would stop and listen. What would you say in that 60 seconds? What would your speech be about?
Your "world speech" speaks largely of what your life purpose is. Even if you just make a bullet-list outline of your speech, the list you will come up with will be coming from the heart. It will reflect what you are most passionate about. It will be a testament of the legacy you would like to be remembered for. Some examples of the main idea of your world speech (I just love calling it that!) would be:
It's All About "Being"
It would take a huge amount of effort to actually set up a world stage where you can deliver your world speech! Thankfully, you can simply just go out there and live it.
"Living it" means that everything you are, think, speak and do are aligned with your message. Doing this allows you to live in the now, while looking ahead into the future.
A career or a profession is only a means to be able to carry out your deepest desire. It's one of the many ways you can fulfill your life calling. "Being" a person of a particular profession is actually more of a doing state. Of course, you can always align your career with your life purpose so that you can make sure you're walking the path that holds truest for you.
As you work on your world speech, remember to speak your truth. After all, if it's a message you aim to bring to the world, wouldn't it be best to reflect the real you?
And here I am again, using the word "want" when I really aim to speak about desire. But hey, for lack of a better title, I am satisfied with that.
Your calling. Life purpose. Our heart's desire. Ambition in life. These are some of the many things we call that which we feel we were meant to do in this life and for this world. How many of us have ever given that a thought? We surely want certain things - our daily latte, a cozy Friday night, a house, a car, our soulmate. Most of the things we would like to have seem so easy to know. But do you know what it is that you really, really… really choose to have or become?
Last weekend, I volunteered for a free ThetaHealing® clinic in the center where I practice. When my first client sat down in front of me, I asked her what brought her to the clinic. The first thing she said was, "I need to find my life's purpose. Help me."
I was amazed by her statement. That was probably the first time I ever heard someone bravely pronounce that they are on a quest to find what they're meant to do in this life. She began to cry as she told me her story, and I could feel the sense of determination and certainty in her that screams "I know I am meant to do something in this world."
The Mouse Trap
Most people go through the daily grind - get up, go to work, work some more, go home, sleep. Many people would even stay for years in a job that they don't really find fulfilling, they don't feel they're good at, or they simply hate. Why do we do this?
The obvious reason for most of us is money. We work in order to provide for our families or buy the things we want. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But what if you can get to a point in your life where you are getting paid to do what you love to do? Isn't that an option you'd like to have?
I used to be in different jobs for the sole purpose of earning money, while at the back of my mind thinking to myself "what do I really choose to do in this life?". I later realized that I have this subconscious program that the source of my life fulfillment and my income should be two separate things! Thankfully, I have cleared that with ThetaHealing®. Moreover, I had a greater realization.
What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?
When we were kids, this question seems to be our parents' gauge on how smart we're going to be, or if we've "decided" on our life's path at a very young age. And as innocent, cute little children, we would answer the question:
"I want to be a doctor."
"When I grow up, I want to be a lawyer."
"I want to be a TV actor."Consequently, we were programmed to think that when we speak of our life purpose, it needs to equate to a certain job or profession. And while that is perfectly okay, I have learned that looking for life's fulfilment in the form of a career more often than not presents a limit when we go out there to pursue it. What do I mean by this?
Your World Speech
I read this exercise in an article before and I feel it's worth sharing. What if God gave you a microphone and for 1 minute you can make a speech in front of the whole world? Yes, the whole world would stop and listen. What would you say in that 60 seconds? What would your speech be about?
Your "world speech" speaks largely of what your life purpose is. Even if you just make a bullet-list outline of your speech, the list you will come up with will be coming from the heart. It will reflect what you are most passionate about. It will be a testament of the legacy you would like to be remembered for. Some examples of the main idea of your world speech (I just love calling it that!) would be:
Treat everyone with love and compassion
Faith can move mountains
Everything you need is within you
You are always more than enough
Everything "just is"
Anything is possibleYou can start making a list of "topics" for your speech, and identify the one that resonates with you most. Which one brought a smile to your face? Gave you goosebumps? Electrified your whole body? Which of those is a message that you are most compelled to shout at the top of your lungs?
It's All About "Being"
It would take a huge amount of effort to actually set up a world stage where you can deliver your world speech! Thankfully, you can simply just go out there and live it.
"Living it" means that everything you are, think, speak and do are aligned with your message. Doing this allows you to live in the now, while looking ahead into the future.
A career or a profession is only a means to be able to carry out your deepest desire. It's one of the many ways you can fulfill your life calling. "Being" a person of a particular profession is actually more of a doing state. Of course, you can always align your career with your life purpose so that you can make sure you're walking the path that holds truest for you.
As you work on your world speech, remember to speak your truth. After all, if it's a message you aim to bring to the world, wouldn't it be best to reflect the real you?
Saturday, November 9, 2013
Braving the Storm
This weekend is probably one of the most challenging for the Philippines and the Filipino people. One of the strongest typhoons ever recorded in world history has hit the country. What's more "amazing" is that typhoon Yolanda (internationally known as "Haiyan") made landfall on the areas of the country that were hit by a 7.2 magnitude earthquake and thousands of aftershocks less than a month before!
I don't intend to talk about the science of those natural events or why they happened to us or anything like that. I was inspired to write this after seeing a comment in CNN on their update on typhoon Yolanda.
Filipinos seem to have the innate spirit of being a hero. Many of us work in other countries, bearing the loneliness of being away from home in order to provide for the very family we're far from. A number of us work at night, giving up the luxury of the natural body clock and the chance of long weekends on Philippine holidays. In the recent typhoons that have hit the country, there are people who would swim through the flood to save someone stuck in their roof, or provide makeshift transportations (ever seen that boat made of plastic soft drink bottles?) just so people can cross the street!
In face of natural and national calamities, there's nothing else we do but FORGE ON. Most Filipinos when asked would say "Eh ganon talaga" ("It is what it is"). Some would complain about the government not doing enough. In the end, we go out and attempt to fix what has been damaged in the most creative ways.
Many people call it being stubborn. Nevertheless, we can choose to look at it from a different perspective and see it as resilience. The Filipinos are indeed tough. Sturdy. Durable. Whatever comes our way, it's our "bring it on" spirit that makes us brave the storm.
Kaya natin 'to! (We can do this!)
I don't intend to talk about the science of those natural events or why they happened to us or anything like that. I was inspired to write this after seeing a comment in CNN on their update on typhoon Yolanda.
"Time to get to know the Filipino people… unbelievably resilient, long suffering, good natured, uber friendly, loyal, ingenious, and a bunch of survivors.Resilience of the human spirit is one of the most valuable things one can ever have, and I can see how CNN managed to say that about us. Unless it's because I haven't watched much TV lately, it's only in the Philippines that I see people waving and making poses in front of the camera when covered in the news during typhoons, floods, earthquakes, and many others. It's as if the mere fact of being on national television is enough to make us "live the moment" despite of what has been happening around us!
At the end of the day, the Filipinos will just shake off the dirt from their clothes and go about their business… and SMILE. They do not complain much, they will bear as long as they can.
Maybe this is why they were given the 'privilege' of bearing the burden of the strongest typhoon ever recorded.
The indomitable human spirit at its finest."
Filipinos seem to have the innate spirit of being a hero. Many of us work in other countries, bearing the loneliness of being away from home in order to provide for the very family we're far from. A number of us work at night, giving up the luxury of the natural body clock and the chance of long weekends on Philippine holidays. In the recent typhoons that have hit the country, there are people who would swim through the flood to save someone stuck in their roof, or provide makeshift transportations (ever seen that boat made of plastic soft drink bottles?) just so people can cross the street!
In face of natural and national calamities, there's nothing else we do but FORGE ON. Most Filipinos when asked would say "Eh ganon talaga" ("It is what it is"). Some would complain about the government not doing enough. In the end, we go out and attempt to fix what has been damaged in the most creative ways.
Many people call it being stubborn. Nevertheless, we can choose to look at it from a different perspective and see it as resilience. The Filipinos are indeed tough. Sturdy. Durable. Whatever comes our way, it's our "bring it on" spirit that makes us brave the storm.
Kaya natin 'to! (We can do this!)
Monday, November 4, 2013
The Attitude of Gratitude
THANK YOU.
Two words which should be very easy to say. We say it to the guy at the cashier after getting our change. We say it to someone who picked up the pen we dropped in the hallway. We say it at the end of our emails. We say it to the friend who lent us some money, or gave us a piece of their french fries.
We say "thank you" when someone did something for us that made us feel good. Makes me wonder. How often do we say it to the people who have always been there for us?
How often do we say "thank you" to our parents, for the little and big things they have done for us? For bringing us to this life? For taking care of us in the years we can barely take care of ourselves? For sending us to school, for having wished nothing but the best for us? For working long years to be able to provide what we need, and for many of us, even when we should have been able to provide for ourselves? For reminding us to take our vitamins, to look before crossing the street? For waking us up when the alarm clock didn't?
How often do we say "thank you" to our friends, just for being there? For sharing their stories and allowing us to share ours? For laughing at the jokes that we tried so hard to conjure? For listening to our stories no matter how dramatic or cheesy they were? For helping us remember the next line of the song that kept us up last night? For keeping you company because it's lonely to sit out there alone in the coffee shop?
Most importantly, how often do we say "thank you" to God, for allowing us to experience this life? For nature, for the air we breath, the trees, the sun, the moon, the stars? For the stranger who smiled at you in the elevator? For waking up to another day? For the money you surprisingly found in your pants' back pocket? For the bright idea that impressed your boss? For the chance encounter with a long-lost friend whom you just thought about the other day? For the safe commute to and from work? For the opportunities you encounter to get you closer to your dream house/job/partner? For the "problems" you experience that makes you stop what you're doing to assess yourself and how to best handle it? For the person who made it difficult for you so you can recognize your own strength? Most importantly, how often do we say "thank you" to God for giving us free will, to be able to make choices in terms of what we feel "called" to fulfill in this life, and to focus our thoughts, words, and actions upon?
I admit I am guilty for not being able to have my gratitude moments as often as I would like to. Nevertheless, I as much as possible spend a few minutes at night before going to bed saying a gratitude prayer at least for everything I have experienced in the day. Random things, small thingss, big things.
An attitude of gratitude is one of the most powerful tools to combat negativity in your life. When you are thankful for something, you feel joy. You feel abundant. You feel humbled yet blessed that you were given the chance to experience what it is you feel thankful for. You see the goodness in life, in things and in the people you meet. It makes you feel too good that the next logical thing to do is to CAUSE others to feel good.
I would strongly recommend that you spend some time everyday to say your prayer of gratitude. Even two minutes a day is not too much to set aside. Or even say your gratitude prayer at random times in the day. Like when you're driving or on the bus or cab, or even in the bathroom! Just any moment when you have time to say a prayer in your mind.
Also, express gratitude for things that didn't make you feel good. Remember, your thoughts created those experiences for you! You will be surprised at how it changes the way you feel about that thing or person or situation simply by shifting your perspective of it.
Expressing gratitude brings you joy and inner peace, the knowing that BEFORE YOU EVEN ASK, IT IS ALREADY GIVEN (I just love saying this!).
In saying all that, allow me then to say THANK YOU -- to my parents, family, friends for everything you have been to me. And thank you, God, for this opportunity to share the lesson of gratitude to the world!
“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.”
Two words which should be very easy to say. We say it to the guy at the cashier after getting our change. We say it to someone who picked up the pen we dropped in the hallway. We say it at the end of our emails. We say it to the friend who lent us some money, or gave us a piece of their french fries.
We say "thank you" when someone did something for us that made us feel good. Makes me wonder. How often do we say it to the people who have always been there for us?
How often do we say "thank you" to our parents, for the little and big things they have done for us? For bringing us to this life? For taking care of us in the years we can barely take care of ourselves? For sending us to school, for having wished nothing but the best for us? For working long years to be able to provide what we need, and for many of us, even when we should have been able to provide for ourselves? For reminding us to take our vitamins, to look before crossing the street? For waking us up when the alarm clock didn't?
How often do we say "thank you" to our friends, just for being there? For sharing their stories and allowing us to share ours? For laughing at the jokes that we tried so hard to conjure? For listening to our stories no matter how dramatic or cheesy they were? For helping us remember the next line of the song that kept us up last night? For keeping you company because it's lonely to sit out there alone in the coffee shop?
Most importantly, how often do we say "thank you" to God, for allowing us to experience this life? For nature, for the air we breath, the trees, the sun, the moon, the stars? For the stranger who smiled at you in the elevator? For waking up to another day? For the money you surprisingly found in your pants' back pocket? For the bright idea that impressed your boss? For the chance encounter with a long-lost friend whom you just thought about the other day? For the safe commute to and from work? For the opportunities you encounter to get you closer to your dream house/job/partner? For the "problems" you experience that makes you stop what you're doing to assess yourself and how to best handle it? For the person who made it difficult for you so you can recognize your own strength? Most importantly, how often do we say "thank you" to God for giving us free will, to be able to make choices in terms of what we feel "called" to fulfill in this life, and to focus our thoughts, words, and actions upon?
I admit I am guilty for not being able to have my gratitude moments as often as I would like to. Nevertheless, I as much as possible spend a few minutes at night before going to bed saying a gratitude prayer at least for everything I have experienced in the day. Random things, small thingss, big things.
An attitude of gratitude is one of the most powerful tools to combat negativity in your life. When you are thankful for something, you feel joy. You feel abundant. You feel humbled yet blessed that you were given the chance to experience what it is you feel thankful for. You see the goodness in life, in things and in the people you meet. It makes you feel too good that the next logical thing to do is to CAUSE others to feel good.
I would strongly recommend that you spend some time everyday to say your prayer of gratitude. Even two minutes a day is not too much to set aside. Or even say your gratitude prayer at random times in the day. Like when you're driving or on the bus or cab, or even in the bathroom! Just any moment when you have time to say a prayer in your mind.
Also, express gratitude for things that didn't make you feel good. Remember, your thoughts created those experiences for you! You will be surprised at how it changes the way you feel about that thing or person or situation simply by shifting your perspective of it.
Expressing gratitude brings you joy and inner peace, the knowing that BEFORE YOU EVEN ASK, IT IS ALREADY GIVEN (I just love saying this!).
In saying all that, allow me then to say THANK YOU -- to my parents, family, friends for everything you have been to me. And thank you, God, for this opportunity to share the lesson of gratitude to the world!
“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.”
– Meister Eckhart
Sunday, November 3, 2013
The Opposite of Certainty
One of the greatest lessons I have learned in my spiritual journey is the lesson of certainty. I have shared this learning in a previous post. It definitely is the most powerful antidote to failure.
Now I’d like to dive into its polar opposite. The opposite of certainty is not fear or doubt or worry. Rather, these 3 emotions are encapsulated in what I believe to be on the other end of the spectrum of certainty. It is called ATTACHMENT.
Many people have the tendency to be attached – to people, to places, things, events and even names that have meaning to us. But you know what we’re mostly attached to? Our desires.
And why not? If you have been wanting something so badly all your life, how can you not be attached to it?
Simply thinking about what you desire does not necessarily equate to being attached to it. Attachment has more to do with three main questions we ask pertaining to our desires:
I have to admit I am still a work in progress when it comes to attachment. It is a huge shift in thinking to be able to detach yourself from asking these three main questions. I remember asking God “What else do I need to do? What other beliefs do I need to clear? What else am I still doing or not doing in order to get to my manifestations?” The next thing I heard was, “Does it always have to be a belief that needs to be cleared? Do you really need to keep your mind busy asking all these questions? Could it be that at this point all you need to do is ALLOW?”
Attachment to your desires prevents you from:
How many of you have uttered “God, give me a sign” in their lifetime? How many times have you actually said it?
Everything happens for a reason. There’s no such thing as coincidence. A song on the radio, a word overheard, a road sign, a book, a restaurant menu… everything you see and encounter in your everyday life came to you for a reason whether you are aware of it or not. I am a strong believer of that. It is when we ASK for a sign that more often than not disserves us.
We are not asking for a sign. We are asking for PROOF. We want God or the universe to prove to us that our prayers are being heard. We want to know if we are getting closer to manifesting our desires. On top of it all, we want to know HOW our desires will be manifested in our life.
When we obsess over the MEANS our desires will manifest, we are creating a roadblock for our desires to come to us. What we are doing is limiting the possibilities of its manifestation. It’s short of saying, “It’s okay, universe. I got this.”
Be Detached
Practice detachment from when and how your desires will manifest. Moreover, be okay with whether or not you get what you desire.
What does this mean? Come from a place of KNOWING and ALLOWING. Know that no matter what happens, you are okay. That you are abundant and that you are always supported in all your endeavors. This is your only job. God, the universe does the rest.
Now I’d like to dive into its polar opposite. The opposite of certainty is not fear or doubt or worry. Rather, these 3 emotions are encapsulated in what I believe to be on the other end of the spectrum of certainty. It is called ATTACHMENT.
Many people have the tendency to be attached – to people, to places, things, events and even names that have meaning to us. But you know what we’re mostly attached to? Our desires.
And why not? If you have been wanting something so badly all your life, how can you not be attached to it?
Simply thinking about what you desire does not necessarily equate to being attached to it. Attachment has more to do with three main questions we ask pertaining to our desires:
- Will it ever come?
- When will it come?
- HOW will it come?
I have to admit I am still a work in progress when it comes to attachment. It is a huge shift in thinking to be able to detach yourself from asking these three main questions. I remember asking God “What else do I need to do? What other beliefs do I need to clear? What else am I still doing or not doing in order to get to my manifestations?” The next thing I heard was, “Does it always have to be a belief that needs to be cleared? Do you really need to keep your mind busy asking all these questions? Could it be that at this point all you need to do is ALLOW?”
Attachment to your desires prevents you from:
- Being present in the NOW. Whenever you feel your desires MUST manifest in order for you to be happy, you are missing the happiness that you could be enjoying now. Most people cling on to their desires as if their life depended on its coming to fruition. The clothes you wear, the food you eat, the friends you get to see… did you ever stop and consider that these are proof that the universe is abundant? That the universe has and will always provide? Practice feeling good all the time, and seeing good in all people and things you see and experience. Doing so will allow you to vibrate high enough to be in harmony with the things you desire.
- Gratitude. Do you know people who seem to be complaining a lot, wishing they were somewhere else doing something else and being something else? Isn’t it tempting to tell them “Did you even thank God that you are still alive?” Prayers of gratitude are the most powerful prayers, because you are expressing your knowing that what you ask for is ALREADY GIVEN.
- ALLOWING. This is very huge when it comes to manifesting your desires. The biggest chunk of our attachment to our desires is to the MEANS in which it will manifest.
How many of you have uttered “God, give me a sign” in their lifetime? How many times have you actually said it?
Everything happens for a reason. There’s no such thing as coincidence. A song on the radio, a word overheard, a road sign, a book, a restaurant menu… everything you see and encounter in your everyday life came to you for a reason whether you are aware of it or not. I am a strong believer of that. It is when we ASK for a sign that more often than not disserves us.
We are not asking for a sign. We are asking for PROOF. We want God or the universe to prove to us that our prayers are being heard. We want to know if we are getting closer to manifesting our desires. On top of it all, we want to know HOW our desires will be manifested in our life.
When we obsess over the MEANS our desires will manifest, we are creating a roadblock for our desires to come to us. What we are doing is limiting the possibilities of its manifestation. It’s short of saying, “It’s okay, universe. I got this.”
Be Detached
Practice detachment from when and how your desires will manifest. Moreover, be okay with whether or not you get what you desire.
What does this mean? Come from a place of KNOWING and ALLOWING. Know that no matter what happens, you are okay. That you are abundant and that you are always supported in all your endeavors. This is your only job. God, the universe does the rest.
Saturday, November 2, 2013
Desire vs. Want - The Subtle Difference
I was re-reading my previous posts (it’s not a lot, so it wasn’t so difficult to do!) this morning and I began to feel a bit uncomfortable. Since I became a Law of Attraction junkie and eventually a ThetaHealer®, I have been very careful about using the word “WANT” in my vocabulary. And when I was reading what I have written, I have used the word “want” more than “desire”!
I guess I’m using “want” because it appears more understandable and less intimidating. I never intended to sound “guru” with this blog, therefore saying things like “what you want” or “things that you want” felt more appropriate.
What’s the big deal? Well, most books and teachings on spirituality say “Desire, but never want.” I feel deep down inside me I understand it, and I would like to be able to express and share it to other people. I went ahead and Google’d the 2 words, and here’s what came up:
DESIRE—
a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.
strongly wish for or want (something).
express a wish to (someone); request or entreat.
WANT—
have a desire to possess or do (something); wish for.
lack or be short of something desirable or essential.
a lack or deficiency of something.
a desire for something.
So really, is there a difference at all?
Most dictionary definitions would interchange these two words. The truth is, the difference between desire and want is very subtle yet makes a huge difference when it comes to transforming our lives.
A-Ha Moment!
I just realized that one difference between want and desire is the depth of the yearning they express. For example, it would feel more proper to say “I want ice cream” instead of “I desire ice cream.” We reserve expressing desire for the things that are more profound and meaningful to us. Even saying “I desire to get married” may sound like too much. But when we say “I desire to find that person I could spend the rest of my life with,” everyone who hears will say “aaaaawwwwww”.
Dissecting the Fine Line
Let’s take a look at more of the differences between desire and want in various aspects:
Where is it coming from? When you want something, you come from a place of lack, of need. This is why you can never get what you want. Think about it. If you want something to drink, you are in the state of wanting. And you stayed there and remained thirsty until you GOT something to drink. What happened was you shifted your state from wanting to getting, and ended up having. Once again, the state of wanting produces more of that state – one that is “not having”.
Desire, on the other hand, comes from a place of yearning, of passion. Desire takes a proactive approach. When you desire something, your thoughts, words and actions are almost always that of a person who already has it.
What emotions envelope you? Emotion is “energy in motion.” Therefore, when you have a thought that you put emotion into, you’re sending a signal to the universe that the things that would bring about more of this emotion to your space is extremely important to you.
Wanting brings about fear, frustration and eventually hopelessness. Whenever you think about what you want, you are being dominated by feelings of anxiety, worry and doubt. Will it ever come? When? What if someone gets there first? HOW WILL IT COME?
Desire wraps you in feelings of hope, of appreciation. When you think about the things you desire, you feel excited just by the thought of getting there. You appreciate the things that you have now that lead you one step closer to its grand manifestation.
What exactly are you doing? Going after what you want is an attempt to fix or fill something in your life. If you go after money because that’s what you want, you’re basically filling that need because you do not have it.
Going after what you desire, on the other hand, is a yearning for something to be expressed through you. A person going after his or her desires is committed and passionate about getting there.
In order to attain your wants or desires, you should be on the same vibrational level as those things you want to manifest. Simply put, if having something makes you happy like your dream home, then you should be vibrating from that “happy place” in order for your dream home to come to you, easily and effortlessly.
Modern Dictionary: A Call to Action
I really hope that somehow I was able to express the desire-versus-want paradigm clearly. It is time to remove the word “want” from your vocabulary. Shift to thinking about your desires. More importantly, it is time to shift from the wanting state to desiring.
“Eliminate the word WANT from your language and the state of wanting from your thinking and being. Replace it with DESIRE and desiring, LIKE and liking. Wanting creates conditions of perpetual wanting. You never get what you want.”
I guess I’m using “want” because it appears more understandable and less intimidating. I never intended to sound “guru” with this blog, therefore saying things like “what you want” or “things that you want” felt more appropriate.
What’s the big deal? Well, most books and teachings on spirituality say “Desire, but never want.” I feel deep down inside me I understand it, and I would like to be able to express and share it to other people. I went ahead and Google’d the 2 words, and here’s what came up:
DESIRE—
a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.
strongly wish for or want (something).
express a wish to (someone); request or entreat.
WANT—
have a desire to possess or do (something); wish for.
lack or be short of something desirable or essential.
a lack or deficiency of something.
a desire for something.
So really, is there a difference at all?
Most dictionary definitions would interchange these two words. The truth is, the difference between desire and want is very subtle yet makes a huge difference when it comes to transforming our lives.
A-Ha Moment!
I just realized that one difference between want and desire is the depth of the yearning they express. For example, it would feel more proper to say “I want ice cream” instead of “I desire ice cream.” We reserve expressing desire for the things that are more profound and meaningful to us. Even saying “I desire to get married” may sound like too much. But when we say “I desire to find that person I could spend the rest of my life with,” everyone who hears will say “aaaaawwwwww”.
Dissecting the Fine Line
Let’s take a look at more of the differences between desire and want in various aspects:
Where is it coming from? When you want something, you come from a place of lack, of need. This is why you can never get what you want. Think about it. If you want something to drink, you are in the state of wanting. And you stayed there and remained thirsty until you GOT something to drink. What happened was you shifted your state from wanting to getting, and ended up having. Once again, the state of wanting produces more of that state – one that is “not having”.
Desire, on the other hand, comes from a place of yearning, of passion. Desire takes a proactive approach. When you desire something, your thoughts, words and actions are almost always that of a person who already has it.
What emotions envelope you? Emotion is “energy in motion.” Therefore, when you have a thought that you put emotion into, you’re sending a signal to the universe that the things that would bring about more of this emotion to your space is extremely important to you.
Wanting brings about fear, frustration and eventually hopelessness. Whenever you think about what you want, you are being dominated by feelings of anxiety, worry and doubt. Will it ever come? When? What if someone gets there first? HOW WILL IT COME?
Desire wraps you in feelings of hope, of appreciation. When you think about the things you desire, you feel excited just by the thought of getting there. You appreciate the things that you have now that lead you one step closer to its grand manifestation.
What exactly are you doing? Going after what you want is an attempt to fix or fill something in your life. If you go after money because that’s what you want, you’re basically filling that need because you do not have it.
Going after what you desire, on the other hand, is a yearning for something to be expressed through you. A person going after his or her desires is committed and passionate about getting there.
In order to attain your wants or desires, you should be on the same vibrational level as those things you want to manifest. Simply put, if having something makes you happy like your dream home, then you should be vibrating from that “happy place” in order for your dream home to come to you, easily and effortlessly.
Modern Dictionary: A Call to Action
I really hope that somehow I was able to express the desire-versus-want paradigm clearly. It is time to remove the word “want” from your vocabulary. Shift to thinking about your desires. More importantly, it is time to shift from the wanting state to desiring.
“Eliminate the word WANT from your language and the state of wanting from your thinking and being. Replace it with DESIRE and desiring, LIKE and liking. Wanting creates conditions of perpetual wanting. You never get what you want.”
- A Happy Pocket Full of Money, David Cameron Gikandi
Thursday, October 31, 2013
The Most Powerful Antidote to Failure
FAILURE...... Noooooooo!!!!!
Most of us hate to fail. I know I do. Or at least I did, until I self-healed it and started to look at failure from a different perspective. :)
Nevertheless, it's completely understandable why most of us hate, resent or fear failure. Who has ever felt great after failing to do, have or become something, right? It's not easy to accept that something just didn't work out, "after all the hard work" you put into it!
What if I tell you that there's a way to be fail-safe? That there's a way to make sure you can never fail (hint: the answer is in this sentence!)? Would you like to know what it is?
This blog post is greatly inspired by another one of my favorite books, "A Happy Pocket Full of Money" by David Cameron Gikandi. There's an entire chapter that speaks about what he refers to as "the most powerful antidote to failure." And I would like to share it with you, because I know we can all use a dose of this!
Ready?
Faith. Belief. That's how most of us know it. But David's book used a word that gives it the "oomph".
All the opportunities, resources, circumstances and even abilities that you have right now are unlimited. The only limit is how much you believe in it.
When you are certain, you will know without a shred of doubt that before you even ask, IT IS ALREADY GIVEN. This level of faith moves the universal forces around to "conspire" and bring to you what you desire in the highest and best way. And when that happens, you do not see it as a "reward" but as a birthright. You would say to yourself, "OF COURSE it's gonna happen!"
Most of us hate to fail. I know I do. Or at least I did, until I self-healed it and started to look at failure from a different perspective. :)
Nevertheless, it's completely understandable why most of us hate, resent or fear failure. Who has ever felt great after failing to do, have or become something, right? It's not easy to accept that something just didn't work out, "after all the hard work" you put into it!
What if I tell you that there's a way to be fail-safe? That there's a way to make sure you can never fail (hint: the answer is in this sentence!)? Would you like to know what it is?
This blog post is greatly inspired by another one of my favorite books, "A Happy Pocket Full of Money" by David Cameron Gikandi. There's an entire chapter that speaks about what he refers to as "the most powerful antidote to failure." And I would like to share it with you, because I know we can all use a dose of this!
Ready?
Faith. Belief. That's how most of us know it. But David's book used a word that gives it the "oomph".
CERTAINTY.
Anything and everything is possible to the extent that you are certain. We’ve heard this truth in many different forms. We hear “faith can move mountains” or “there can be miracles when you believe” (wait, that’s a song!). Certainty is a state of BEING. You cannot DO certain or THINK certain, you can only BE certain.
Imagine you go to a restaurant and order your food, you don’t become all giddy and panicky while you wait for your order, do you? You know the food is going to come. Or when you are eating and you take a bite of your food, the thought “Oh my gosh, is the food going to be chewed?!” doesn’t even cross your mind. Or when you are typing in your computer, you don’t even stop to think, “Wait, if I press the ‘A’ key, what if ‘B’ comes out?”
Those could be silly examples, but the point is, it is THAT level of certainty that is guaranteed to bring about what you want in your life. If you are that certain about yourself, God and the universe, you will never ever fail.
What Stops You From Being Certain?
In my all-time favorite book, Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch, God says that “The opposite of love is not hatred, but FEAR.” I am a total believer of that. Think about it. The things we do in life, we do either out of fear or out of love. Every other emotion in between stems from those two main feelings. You would either go after something you really love, or go after something to avoid what you fear.
Funnily enough, many of us fear the very thing (or person) we love! Oh, we come up with all the excuses why we don’t have what we say we want. What it all comes down to is that we are being enveloped by the main enemies of our dreams and visions, which are:
Imagine you go to a restaurant and order your food, you don’t become all giddy and panicky while you wait for your order, do you? You know the food is going to come. Or when you are eating and you take a bite of your food, the thought “Oh my gosh, is the food going to be chewed?!” doesn’t even cross your mind. Or when you are typing in your computer, you don’t even stop to think, “Wait, if I press the ‘A’ key, what if ‘B’ comes out?”
Those could be silly examples, but the point is, it is THAT level of certainty that is guaranteed to bring about what you want in your life. If you are that certain about yourself, God and the universe, you will never ever fail.
What Stops You From Being Certain?
In my all-time favorite book, Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch, God says that “The opposite of love is not hatred, but FEAR.” I am a total believer of that. Think about it. The things we do in life, we do either out of fear or out of love. Every other emotion in between stems from those two main feelings. You would either go after something you really love, or go after something to avoid what you fear.
Funnily enough, many of us fear the very thing (or person) we love! Oh, we come up with all the excuses why we don’t have what we say we want. What it all comes down to is that we are being enveloped by the main enemies of our dreams and visions, which are:
- Worry. CWG says it is the worst form of mental activity. Worry is “wasted mental energy.” It is harmful to your body to the point that it may even cause diseases. Most of the time, our worries are just illusions in our mind! How many times have you ever said “It wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be”?
- Doubt. Doubt is produced when the things you worry about becomes a program in your mind. When you continually worry about something, you build your doubt towards it.
- Fear. Fear is worry and doubt magnified. As mentioned earlier, it is also the opposite of love. When you fear something, you freeze. You find all the reasons to NOT do anything.
FEAR has been popularly defined to be “False Expectations Appearing Real”. Ironically, fear attracts that which we fear, because it puts you in the place of knowing (recognizing to be true) what you fear.
Remember: you can NEVER be certain when you have thoughts of worry, doubt or fear.
How To Remove Thoughts of Worry, Doubt and Fear
- Choose and decide to remove these thoughts. Mind your mind. Be conscious of the thoughts you entertain and keep. Soon enough, you'll find it's second nature to be able to filter out these thoughts.
- Accept the thoughts, but do not embrace them. Acknowledge the thought when it comes to you and see it for what it is. Accepting the thought is the only way you can know whether or not it serves you and eventually release it.
- Discourage, but do not resist. Once you realize you are thinking thoughts of worry, doubt and fear, you can stop them dead in their tracks. However, remember that what you resist persists. So stop the thoughts, but do not allow them to go further only for you to have to fight it.
- Watch, but do not attach. Understand where these thoughts came from and how it serves you to keep them. Be mindful that you don't get attached to the reasons you find - meaning, observe the thoughts "from afar" instead of mulling over and investing more emotions.
- Be persistent! Even when everything seems to be pointing the other way. Even if all evidence seem contrary. Persistence is a conscious decision and action. Persistence produces faith, and faith produces persistence. It's a simple yet powerful cycle.
All the opportunities, resources, circumstances and even abilities that you have right now are unlimited. The only limit is how much you believe in it.
When you are certain, you will know without a shred of doubt that before you even ask, IT IS ALREADY GIVEN. This level of faith moves the universal forces around to "conspire" and bring to you what you desire in the highest and best way. And when that happens, you do not see it as a "reward" but as a birthright. You would say to yourself, "OF COURSE it's gonna happen!"
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
To BE or Not To BE... That is Really the Question
When I was in high school, I read an amazing magazine article that I would consider my first encounter with the Law of Attraction. I didn't think much of it before, but now I realize why it had so much impact in my life that I remember it now, almost 20 years later.
The article was saying how most of us act out this I-look-happy-but-deep-inside-I'm-crying drama in our lives, and how most people would say that they just put up a facade in order to look like they're okay. The writer goes to say that in reality, if you feel crappy inside and you treat yourself like trash (Yes, such brave, outspoken writing!), people see through your so-called facade and treat you the exact same way you treat yourself (i.e., like trash).
This is also true with the way you treat other people, and I have experienced it over and over again. I learned that if you give someone a "label" (for example, you see one person as lazy or another person as stupid), that is how you would treat them and consequently, that's how they will act towards you.
Here's the ironic part. In our world, we seem to do this the other way around. Let me explain.
Most of us programmed with the need for our thoughts and feelings to be JUSTIFIED in order for them to be rendered valid or accepted. Therefore, we see the circumstances around us as the cause of our thoughts and feelings (effect). How often do we say things like:
And how often have we considered looking at it the other way around?
Why is it so much easier to put the blame on something or someone else rather than take responsibility for our own thoughts and feelings? Would you believe me when I say that the reality is we bring upon ourselves the circumstances we experience based on our thoughts and feelings, and not the other way around?
Remember that your thoughts are creative forces. The subconscious mind is a great manifestor of the things you hold to be true. Therefore, when you say you're pissed, your subconscious mind will bring to your space situations that would 1) prove it to you, 2) hold that thought or feeling firmly in place and 3) make it "real" in your life.
The Be-Do-Have Paradigm
So how do we change this? It's time to shift our thinking and make the Be-Do-Have paradigm work in our lives.
***This explanation of the Be-Do-Have paradigm is derived from my all-time favorite book, Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch.***
Most people believe that if they HAVE a thing (more money, more time, a partner), they can finally DO a thing (start a business, travel, get married) and then ultimately BE a thing (generous, happy, contented). Consider reversing this program and realize that it all starts with BEING.
Therefore, if you choose to BE happy (or generous, contented, etc.), you DO things from that place of being, and that ends up bringing you the things you choose to HAVE.
You want to be happy? Then choose to be. It's as simple as that. Remember too that with ThetaHealing®, this belief can also change on the subconscious level instantly! :)
The article was saying how most of us act out this I-look-happy-but-deep-inside-I'm-crying drama in our lives, and how most people would say that they just put up a facade in order to look like they're okay. The writer goes to say that in reality, if you feel crappy inside and you treat yourself like trash (Yes, such brave, outspoken writing!), people see through your so-called facade and treat you the exact same way you treat yourself (i.e., like trash).
This is also true with the way you treat other people, and I have experienced it over and over again. I learned that if you give someone a "label" (for example, you see one person as lazy or another person as stupid), that is how you would treat them and consequently, that's how they will act towards you.
Here's the ironic part. In our world, we seem to do this the other way around. Let me explain.
Most of us programmed with the need for our thoughts and feelings to be JUSTIFIED in order for them to be rendered valid or accepted. Therefore, we see the circumstances around us as the cause of our thoughts and feelings (effect). How often do we say things like:
"I'm always in debt, that's why I feel poor."
"My boss is an a**hole, that's why I hate my job."
"My partner does not understand me, that's why I am lonely."
"Their customer service sucks, that's why I'm pissed."
"I'm fat, that's why I hate my body."
And how often have we considered looking at it the other way around?
"I feel poor, that's why I'm always in debt."
"I hate my job, that's why my boss is an a**hole."
"I'm lonely, that's why my partner does not understand me."
"I'm pissed, that's why their customer service sucks."
"I hate my body, that's why I'm fat."
Why is it so much easier to put the blame on something or someone else rather than take responsibility for our own thoughts and feelings? Would you believe me when I say that the reality is we bring upon ourselves the circumstances we experience based on our thoughts and feelings, and not the other way around?
Remember that your thoughts are creative forces. The subconscious mind is a great manifestor of the things you hold to be true. Therefore, when you say you're pissed, your subconscious mind will bring to your space situations that would 1) prove it to you, 2) hold that thought or feeling firmly in place and 3) make it "real" in your life.
The Be-Do-Have Paradigm
So how do we change this? It's time to shift our thinking and make the Be-Do-Have paradigm work in our lives.
***This explanation of the Be-Do-Have paradigm is derived from my all-time favorite book, Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch.***
Most people believe that if they HAVE a thing (more money, more time, a partner), they can finally DO a thing (start a business, travel, get married) and then ultimately BE a thing (generous, happy, contented). Consider reversing this program and realize that it all starts with BEING.
Therefore, if you choose to BE happy (or generous, contented, etc.), you DO things from that place of being, and that ends up bringing you the things you choose to HAVE.
You want to be happy? Then choose to be. It's as simple as that. Remember too that with ThetaHealing®, this belief can also change on the subconscious level instantly! :)
Monday, October 28, 2013
Bargaining with the Universe
There's one phenomena that's been sweeping the Philippines for many years now: BAZAARS.
It used to be that bazaars are set up only during the Christmas season. Now, they've been a staple shopping event or place anytime of the year! From gifts to clothes to shoes to bags to gadgets, most Filipinos tend to think of going to bazaars first before the mall in order to shop. Whether you're in the city or in the province, bazaars are just everywhere. Who wouldn't have heard of "tiangge" or "ukay-ukay" these days?
It's funny to observe how the usual scenario in a bazaar is very much like how we bargain with the universe in real life. Please don't get me wrong. I have always admired people who have a natural talent at saving money, and I'm not saying it's wrong to buy things at affordable prices. I am talking about how when it comes to the things we want in life - dream job, long-awaited vacation, the ideal partner - most of us tend to make do with the "lowest possible version" of what we want.
There are 2 ways most people bargain with the universe.
Settling for Something Less
In 2009, I quit what I would consider then to be the highest-paying job I ever had in my entire life. I took a blind leap of faith and thought I'd pursue my entrepreneurial dream full time. As I mentioned previously, that didn't work out for me. So I did the only logical thing to do - look for a new job.
In 2009, I quit what I would consider then to be the highest-paying job I ever had in my entire life. I took a blind leap of faith and thought I'd pursue my entrepreneurial dream full time. As I mentioned previously, that didn't work out for me. So I did the only logical thing to do - look for a new job.
For several months, I was submitting job applications left and right and going to several job interviews, only to be declined everytime because my previous salary was too high. I only got accepted for a job when I mentioned that I was WILLING TO SETTLE for so much less of what I was getting paid. Since then, I found myself getting into jobs that would always pay me less than the last.
How many times has this happened to you? Not necessarily when looking for a job, but when going after something we want? This is what I would call in Tagalog the "puwede na yan" ("this will do") mentality.
We do this to ourselves more often than we realize.
"I really wanted the beige pair of shoes, but they only had my size in black. It's okay. At least I got new shoes."
"My new office is farther from home than my last job, but it's okay. At least they pay higher allowances."
"I was hoping my boss would approve my vacation for one week. But I got 3 days. It's okay. At least he didn't ask me to work from home."
What's worse is that before we even go for what we want, we have already bargained with ourselves with either-or options. "I'll buy a new laptop. Either I get one with a larger screen or a larger internal hard drive." Why can't you think of having both?
I Scratch Your Back, You Scratch Mine
Another way people bargain with the universe is through this general concept of karma. Most especially when it comes to bigger things that we want in life - a house, dream job, our soulmate - we tend to believe that if we do something out of goodwill, God or the universe will see our good nature and "give us" what we want. Even those who do not know or believe in "karma" still have an innate knowing that good things happen to good people.
Another way people bargain with the universe is through this general concept of karma. Most especially when it comes to bigger things that we want in life - a house, dream job, our soulmate - we tend to believe that if we do something out of goodwill, God or the universe will see our good nature and "give us" what we want. Even those who do not know or believe in "karma" still have an innate knowing that good things happen to good people.
This is something we all probably learned as children. Who hasn't been promised ice cream or a new toy or a party on your next birthday if you "behave"?
Why Do We Do This?
I am not a psychology expert, but being a student of ThetaHealing®, there are a few reasons I can outline to explain people's tendency to bargain:
I am not a psychology expert, but being a student of ThetaHealing®, there are a few reasons I can outline to explain people's tendency to bargain:
- Doubt and Fear. Most people feel that they have no control over what happens in their life, especially when it comes to the big things they want to have. We doubt if we're gonna get what we want. We fear someone might get there ahead of us. We're just NOT SURE.
- We're not worthy enough. This is primarily why we feel we have to prove to the universe that we are deserving of what we want by doing something good.
- Lack mentality. Most people feel there's not enough time or not enough options, which is why we settle with the "at least" or "either/or" versions of what we want. "I can't wait forever to take my much needed vacation, so I'd rather take a few days off now than wait until I get an entire month free!"
Do You Want to Change This?
If you would like to change this belief to have to bargain for what you want with the universe, let's go ahead and do that now.
If you would like to change this belief to have to bargain for what you want with the universe, let's go ahead and do that now.
Would you like to know how to live your day to day life without feeling the need to bargain with the universe? To know that you are allowed to and deserving to have what you want in life? That it is your divine birthright to get what you want, without having to do something to get it as a reward?
Would you like to remember from God's truth, definition and perspective what it feels like to be WORTHY? To know how to live your daily life being worthy? That you understand what it feels like to be worthy? That you are allowed to and it's safe to be worthy of the manifestations of all your desires? That you can have ALL of them? No either/or? No at least?
And would you like to remember that there's more than enough for everyone to go around? That ALL your desires can manifest just like everyone else's desires can? And that you have God's truth, definition and perspective of abundance? That you can live your daily life having all the options available to you? And that you are deserving and allowed to have all the available options in front of you to choose from?
Would you like to have all these feelings instilled in to your being, through every cell of your body? On all your belief levels, across all time and space, for your highest and best, in the highest and best way? Without the need for drama or trauma, disease or illness, or the need to create or recreate any negative experiences for the purpose of validation or learning?
If you say YES to the questions above, congratulations! You have just allowed the power of ThetaHealing® to work in your life to change the program of bargaining with the universe! Go on an feel this energy work in your life from this moment on.
I would love to hear if this healing in writing has served you in some way. Please leave your comment below, and I will work on writing more articles like this!
Sunday, October 27, 2013
Self-Healing
I'll admit it. I initially got into ThetaHealing® for myself. I wanted to practice it so I can heal myself, shift my own paradigm, clear my own beliefs, change my life.
After graduating from my first ThetaHealing® class, I promised myself to do at least one session everyday. So every night, the bed became my healing spot. I would sit quietly and connect to God, and worked on pulling negative beliefs and replacing them with positive ones. I made a list of beliefs that I would check off whenever I clear a belief on my list.
Just like most things, practice does make perfect. It was not easy getting started. I relentlessly practiced going to Theta to connect to God. I practiced listening to my intuition, trusting that whatever comes first to mind is "the right message" from God. I memorized the healing "command" because I did not want that to interfere with my being in Theta state. At first, I felt I needed to visualize everything that is happening - the process of going to Theta, the beliefs being pulled out of my space, the new beliefs going in, the feelings I am "downloading".
As days pass by, the entire healing session gets easier and easier. Going into Theta eventually took no more than 3 seconds. Visualizing felt more like second nature. Digging for the bottom belief became much quicker, I feel like my mind is taking all these cool shortcuts. What I found most amazing then was that, since I intended to clear beliefs daily, I "pick up" the next belief to clear at random times in a day! Sometimes, these thoughts came to me so fast that I even do my healing on my commute to and from work. Yes, I do ThetaHealing® on the bus!
Overall, I believe it is still beneficial to be able to work with a fellow ThetaHealer® to clear some beliefs. Nevertheless, healing yourself has its own benefits. Here's what doing a lot of healing on myself did for me:
Go on, do it! And let me know how it goes for you :)
After graduating from my first ThetaHealing® class, I promised myself to do at least one session everyday. So every night, the bed became my healing spot. I would sit quietly and connect to God, and worked on pulling negative beliefs and replacing them with positive ones. I made a list of beliefs that I would check off whenever I clear a belief on my list.
Just like most things, practice does make perfect. It was not easy getting started. I relentlessly practiced going to Theta to connect to God. I practiced listening to my intuition, trusting that whatever comes first to mind is "the right message" from God. I memorized the healing "command" because I did not want that to interfere with my being in Theta state. At first, I felt I needed to visualize everything that is happening - the process of going to Theta, the beliefs being pulled out of my space, the new beliefs going in, the feelings I am "downloading".
As days pass by, the entire healing session gets easier and easier. Going into Theta eventually took no more than 3 seconds. Visualizing felt more like second nature. Digging for the bottom belief became much quicker, I feel like my mind is taking all these cool shortcuts. What I found most amazing then was that, since I intended to clear beliefs daily, I "pick up" the next belief to clear at random times in a day! Sometimes, these thoughts came to me so fast that I even do my healing on my commute to and from work. Yes, I do ThetaHealing® on the bus!
Overall, I believe it is still beneficial to be able to work with a fellow ThetaHealer® to clear some beliefs. Nevertheless, healing yourself has its own benefits. Here's what doing a lot of healing on myself did for me:
- I got tons of practice! It's not like you have a fellow ThetaHealer® who you can ask to work with you and do healing anytime. I also became more comfortable healing other people - whether or not they are ThetaHealers® - because I got the thinking-about-the-process out of the way.
- I became more honest with myself, and I have to admit this could also be why I was comfortable with the idea of healing myself. I was initially too embarrassed to talk about my issues with other people. One of the things I self-healed is the fear of bias and judgment. I eventually moved past that fear and realized that it's okay to admit to what is serving me and what is not, either to myself or to other people.
- I feel a deeper and more meaningful connection with God. I have always believed in the power of prayer, and I have always loved praying because I used to think that praying is the only way I can have a conversation with God. And by conversation, I mean talking and talking to ask for what I want or to simply tell God what I feel. Since ThetaHealing®, I learned how to quiet my mind and to actually LISTEN to what God tells me.
- I can now honestly say that I fully trust my intuition. When I was starting out, I used to doubt my gut feeling, the "first thing that comes to mind". Is it just my imagination? Am I just making it up? Is it really God talking? Even though I didn't do an actual healing on my beliefs about trusting my intuition, it got to clear all by itself with the many self-healings I have done.
Go on, do it! And let me know how it goes for you :)
Friday, October 25, 2013
Mind Over Matter
When I tell other people about ThetaHealing®, I find that it is easier to grasp its fundamentals by explaining two things: the Law of Attraction and the power of the mind. This is what this blog post is about.
The Law of Attraction
Numerous books have been written about this universal law in the last century. A couple of examples I can give are "Your Invisible Power" by Genevieve Behrend and "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. But its popularity rose with the book and movie "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne in 2006. Since then, more and more books, blogs, videos and websites have been created towards the subject.
The Law of Attraction is a universal law which states that what you think, you create.
Universal laws are without bias, they work each and every time to each and every one of us. You can deny it, refuse to work with it or disprove it, but it will nevertheless work the way it's supposed to. Take the law of gravity, for example. Two people can jump off the edge of a building or cliff (morbid, I know, but a perfect example nonetheless) and both of them will fall. Gravity will not make a judgment and say "Okay, the girl is the one who will fall." or "The one on the right is the nicer person, he shall float." Nope. Gravity pulls both of them towards the center of the earth, and thus, both of them falls to the ground.
In the same way, you can deny or disprove the law of attraction, but it will always work in your life the way it's supposed to. That is, you create in your reality the thought which you put energy into on a subconscious level. The subconscious mind is so powerful that it ALWAYS makes real the thoughts, beliefs and programs that you hold in this level.
The Power of the Mind
Your mind is so much more powerful than any supercomputer ever known to man. It is made up of 2 components - the conscious and the subconscious.
The CONSCIOUS mind makes up 12% of your mind, and is responsible for logic, analysis, calculation and decision making.
The SUBCONSCIOUS mind makes up the remaining 88%, and is responsible for 2 main functions:
How do the conscious and subconscious mind work together?
Your conscious mind DECIDES what memories, thoughts, beliefs, etc. to store in your subconscious mind. The subconscious, on the other hand, does not do any of the "thinking". Its main purpose is to keep you "safe" by storing and retrieving programmed responses so that when faced with a similar situation, you will react to it in a manner that will preserve your familiarity with it.
Because the subconscious mind does not "think," it works in accordance to certain rules:
The Law of Attraction
Numerous books have been written about this universal law in the last century. A couple of examples I can give are "Your Invisible Power" by Genevieve Behrend and "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. But its popularity rose with the book and movie "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne in 2006. Since then, more and more books, blogs, videos and websites have been created towards the subject.
The Law of Attraction is a universal law which states that what you think, you create.
Universal laws are without bias, they work each and every time to each and every one of us. You can deny it, refuse to work with it or disprove it, but it will nevertheless work the way it's supposed to. Take the law of gravity, for example. Two people can jump off the edge of a building or cliff (morbid, I know, but a perfect example nonetheless) and both of them will fall. Gravity will not make a judgment and say "Okay, the girl is the one who will fall." or "The one on the right is the nicer person, he shall float." Nope. Gravity pulls both of them towards the center of the earth, and thus, both of them falls to the ground.
In the same way, you can deny or disprove the law of attraction, but it will always work in your life the way it's supposed to. That is, you create in your reality the thought which you put energy into on a subconscious level. The subconscious mind is so powerful that it ALWAYS makes real the thoughts, beliefs and programs that you hold in this level.
The Power of the Mind
Your mind is so much more powerful than any supercomputer ever known to man. It is made up of 2 components - the conscious and the subconscious.
The CONSCIOUS mind makes up 12% of your mind, and is responsible for logic, analysis, calculation and decision making.
The SUBCONSCIOUS mind makes up the remaining 88%, and is responsible for 2 main functions:
- It is the storage space for all memories, experiences, beliefs, thoughts, programs, skills and even images you have seen and gone through in your lifetime.
- It serves as your "autopilot". Because it holds all of what you have seen and experienced, it automatically triggers certain feelings or thoughts when you face a new situation. For example, if you are going to ride a roller coaster, your subconscious mind will retrieve memories from a similar previous experience, and will dictate how you would feel or react when you get into the ride this time. It also controls your body's involuntary functions. What if you have to remember to breathe or have your heart beat everytime?!
How do the conscious and subconscious mind work together?
Your conscious mind DECIDES what memories, thoughts, beliefs, etc. to store in your subconscious mind. The subconscious, on the other hand, does not do any of the "thinking". Its main purpose is to keep you "safe" by storing and retrieving programmed responses so that when faced with a similar situation, you will react to it in a manner that will preserve your familiarity with it.
Because the subconscious mind does not "think," it works in accordance to certain rules:
- The subconscious mind does not differentiate between reality and your imagination. If you are to do a speech and you visualize that it goes well, your subconscious takes it as the reality and thus will bring that outcome in physicality.
- The subconscious mind does not recognize the word NOT. If you say "I don't want to be late for work," then guess what? Your subconscious mind only hears the word "late" and makes it real for you. Think, then, about how we sabotage ourselves whenever we think of what we want (i.e., in a partner) and we say the things we do NOT want! ("I want a partner who does NOT smoke, does NOT cheat, etc.")
- The subconscious mind brings what you expect in the now. When you say you WANT something, that's what your subconscious brings you -- THE STATE OF WANTING, therefore, not having.
- The subconscious mind attracts proofs of what you firmly believe in. Have you ever noticed that when you feel annoyed, one situation after another just seems to come up to annoy you all the more?
- The more conscious effort you put into something, the less subconscious response is required. This can be best attributed to one's attachment towards achieving something, which is an entire story all in itself. I will have an entire blog post on attachment in the near future. Let's look at a simple example for now. How many times have have you looked all over the place for something you misplaced, only for that thing to show up when you have stopped searching?
- Finally, your subconscious mind will always win when in conflict with your conscious mind. If you're applying to get your dream job and you have some fears and doubts about whether or not you will get it, there is a higher probability that you will not get it no matter how much you consciously tell yourself "No, that's not true. I will get that job!"
To sum it all up, our subconscious mind is very powerful that if you are able to retrain it, you can make the Law of Attraction work in your life to your favor.... all the time! ThetaHealing® is the only technique I know of that can help you retrain your subconscious mind instantly.
Thursday, October 24, 2013
What is ThetaHealing®?
So you ask. What exactly is ThetaHealing®?
My simple definition of ThetaHealing® is:
The THETA Part
Theta is one of the five brainwave states which regulate our daily activities:
A lot of information about ThetaHealing® can be found simply by Googling it, but I'd like to be able to explain it in my own words, the way I have understood it to work.
My simple definition of ThetaHealing® is:
ThetaHealing® is a healing technique that enables one to connect to "God energy" in order to change or create anything in an instant.
I could envision a lot of you either raised eyebrows or had a puzzled look on your faces. Let's break down the key elements so we can all be on the same page.
I could envision a lot of you either raised eyebrows or had a puzzled look on your faces. Let's break down the key elements so we can all be on the same page.
The THETA Part
Theta is one of the five brainwave states which regulate our daily activities:
- Beta (14-28 cycles per second): This is our waking state
- Alpha (7-14 cycles per second): This is the bridge between the Beta and the Theta state; deep relaxation and meditation
- Theta (4-7 cycles per second): This is the state of very deep relaxation, dominant during REM sleep (dream state)
- Delta (0-4 cycles per second): This is the state of dreamless sleep.
- Gamma (40-4000 cycles per second): Discoved after electroencephalography (EEG) equipment are developed; used in moments of peak concentration and high levels of cognitive activities
ThetaHealing® and why the "Registered" trademark?
ThetaHealing® was founded in 1995 by a woman from Idaho Falls, Idaho named Vianna Stibal. A very intuitive and psychic person, Vianna managed to heal her leg from bone cancer. She then promised to develop this technique and teach it to the world. You may read more of her story on the ThetaHealing® website.
Part of spreading the awareness on ThetaHealing® is certifying people to become practitioners and instructors. ThetaHealing® is patented to make sure that the technique is taught the proper way, in order to preserve its value and purpose.
God Energy
ThetaHealing® was founded in 1995 by a woman from Idaho Falls, Idaho named Vianna Stibal. A very intuitive and psychic person, Vianna managed to heal her leg from bone cancer. She then promised to develop this technique and teach it to the world. You may read more of her story on the ThetaHealing® website.
Part of spreading the awareness on ThetaHealing® is certifying people to become practitioners and instructors. ThetaHealing® is patented to make sure that the technique is taught the proper way, in order to preserve its value and purpose.
God Energy
Let me say first of all that ThetaHealing® does not side with any particular religious group or belief. Therefore, what I refer to as "God" may be to others "Source" or "Creator" or "Creator of All That Is" or "Allah" or "Buddha" or any other name it has been given. The important thing to understand is, this is the energy where all creation ("All That Is") came from.
In ThetaHealing®, there is a meditation process that allows one to reach the Theta brainwave state, thus connecting to the God energy even if you're awake or conscious. Practicing the meditation often creates a neuro-pathway in your brain to be able to go to Theta and connect to God almost instantly.
Change or Create Anything Instantly
Does this mean that if I want a Ferrari and I manifest it using ThetaHealing®, it will all of a sudden be right there when I open my eyes? Are you saying that if I want my hair to be forever straight, I can go to a ThetaHealing® session and come out looking like I just had a hair rebond?
Before more similar questions come up, it is better to explain first and foremost the purpose of ThetaHealing®. One premise of ThetaHealing® is that the "reality" we experience stems from a "sponsoring thought." If you have, at the very least, heard about the Law of Attraction, you would understand that all thoughts are creative. That what our mind can conceive, the body (physical reality) can achieve. That said, if there's something in your life you'd like to change or create, a ThetaHealer® can help you dig through your subconscious beliefs and thought patterns that may be hindering you from achieving what you desire in the first place, even if you are not aware of those on a conscious level. With ThetaHealing®, these beliefs can be pulled from your subconscious mind and be replaced with positive ones that will serve you, and will ultimately lead you towards what you choose to have.
Once those beliefs are pulled and replaced, it is possible that you may not feel anything on the surface, but your subconscious mind is beginning to shift your reality to one that is favorable to you. And that may include the Ferrari or the forever-straight hair!
That, in a nutshell, is the powerful technique called ThetaHealing®.
In ThetaHealing®, there is a meditation process that allows one to reach the Theta brainwave state, thus connecting to the God energy even if you're awake or conscious. Practicing the meditation often creates a neuro-pathway in your brain to be able to go to Theta and connect to God almost instantly.
Change or Create Anything Instantly
Does this mean that if I want a Ferrari and I manifest it using ThetaHealing®, it will all of a sudden be right there when I open my eyes? Are you saying that if I want my hair to be forever straight, I can go to a ThetaHealing® session and come out looking like I just had a hair rebond?
Before more similar questions come up, it is better to explain first and foremost the purpose of ThetaHealing®. One premise of ThetaHealing® is that the "reality" we experience stems from a "sponsoring thought." If you have, at the very least, heard about the Law of Attraction, you would understand that all thoughts are creative. That what our mind can conceive, the body (physical reality) can achieve. That said, if there's something in your life you'd like to change or create, a ThetaHealer® can help you dig through your subconscious beliefs and thought patterns that may be hindering you from achieving what you desire in the first place, even if you are not aware of those on a conscious level. With ThetaHealing®, these beliefs can be pulled from your subconscious mind and be replaced with positive ones that will serve you, and will ultimately lead you towards what you choose to have.
Once those beliefs are pulled and replaced, it is possible that you may not feel anything on the surface, but your subconscious mind is beginning to shift your reality to one that is favorable to you. And that may include the Ferrari or the forever-straight hair!
That, in a nutshell, is the powerful technique called ThetaHealing®.
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
My ThetaHealing® Journey
Do you want to know "The Secret"?
I have been introduced to the Law of Attraction back in 2007 and since then have read numerous materials about "The Secret" and Quantum Physics. I have to admit I stumbled upon this universal law when I joined a network marketing company in the hopes of becoming an entrepreneur. Long story short, that didn't work out for me.
Although I walked out on my entrepreneurial dream then with a not-so-happy ending, I am thankful for that chapter in my life. I think the network marketing business started what I would call my 'spiritual journey'. Without it, I wouldn't even have heard of the Law of Attraction! Since then, I started to shift my thinking to filter out negative thoughts and only put my energy into things that serve me. I have manifested certain things with the techniques I have followed -- a new phone, a new bag, a job. These manifestations made me believe that achieving my desires is indeed possible.
The Sock Drawer
Despite all the techniques that I followed to make the Law of Attraction work in my life, it came to a point where it felt like thinking positive thoughts all day became a chore. Moreover, I felt that sometimes I am lying to myself when I say "of course this is going to happen for me" when I know that deep inside, I'm really thinking "I don't think I'm good enough for this." I then realized that the mind is like a sock drawer (yes, for some reason that was the illustration that resonated with me). Imagine a drawer full of rolled up pairs of socks. No matter how many times you put in a new pair - prettier socks, more colorful socks, newer socks - there are socks in the drawer that you don't use, that are faded, that have holes... but you keep them anyway!
In the same way, I realized that my mind is holding on to certain thoughts, memories and beliefs that hinder me from manifesting, especially the bigger things that I want. And if all I do is fill my mind with positive thoughts, it doesn't change the fact that there are still thoughts, memories and beliefs in my mind that do not serve me but are still in my mind anyway.
I then stumbled upon a material on Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), a technique that uses a series of tapping exercises in order to bring negative feelings to the surface and gradually release them. I read up on EFT and followed the tapping exercises in the books. However, something was still missing.
The Missing Piece
I have always loved being a student. You could probably tell from this short narrative how much of a geek I could become when I find things I am interested in. While I have been learning so much through the years of reading and reading on these "mind stuff," I couldn't help but wish that there's an actual class or workshop here in the Philippines where I can learn all these things experientially - you know, the classroom-and-teacher kind of setup.
One day, I was chatting with a friend over lunch about the Law of Attraction, and she introduced me to this thing called ThetaHealing®. She has been taking up the courses for a few months then. She sent me links to articles and videos and websites about ThetaHealing®, and that's when I got all excited and explored the possibility of attending the classes. I took my first ever ThetaHealing® course in May 2013.
The Paradigm Shift
I don't recall where or when or how it started, but I can surely say that my life has shifted so much since I took my first ThetaHealing® class. I had better control of my thoughts, thus having more control over my experiences. I treated each person and experience in my life as a blessing, and therefore life has been "very good" to me. Most importantly, I found my life's calling -- to become a ThetaHealing® practitioner.
My main goal in creating this blog is to share to you bit by bit how ThetaHealing® has shifted my life, all for the highest and best. I do hope that this serves as an inspiration to the world, not only to come and experience ThetaHealing®, but more importantly to raise awareness that truly, there is an enlightened way to live the life of your dreams!
I have been introduced to the Law of Attraction back in 2007 and since then have read numerous materials about "The Secret" and Quantum Physics. I have to admit I stumbled upon this universal law when I joined a network marketing company in the hopes of becoming an entrepreneur. Long story short, that didn't work out for me.
Although I walked out on my entrepreneurial dream then with a not-so-happy ending, I am thankful for that chapter in my life. I think the network marketing business started what I would call my 'spiritual journey'. Without it, I wouldn't even have heard of the Law of Attraction! Since then, I started to shift my thinking to filter out negative thoughts and only put my energy into things that serve me. I have manifested certain things with the techniques I have followed -- a new phone, a new bag, a job. These manifestations made me believe that achieving my desires is indeed possible.
The Sock Drawer
Despite all the techniques that I followed to make the Law of Attraction work in my life, it came to a point where it felt like thinking positive thoughts all day became a chore. Moreover, I felt that sometimes I am lying to myself when I say "of course this is going to happen for me" when I know that deep inside, I'm really thinking "I don't think I'm good enough for this." I then realized that the mind is like a sock drawer (yes, for some reason that was the illustration that resonated with me). Imagine a drawer full of rolled up pairs of socks. No matter how many times you put in a new pair - prettier socks, more colorful socks, newer socks - there are socks in the drawer that you don't use, that are faded, that have holes... but you keep them anyway!
In the same way, I realized that my mind is holding on to certain thoughts, memories and beliefs that hinder me from manifesting, especially the bigger things that I want. And if all I do is fill my mind with positive thoughts, it doesn't change the fact that there are still thoughts, memories and beliefs in my mind that do not serve me but are still in my mind anyway.
I then stumbled upon a material on Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), a technique that uses a series of tapping exercises in order to bring negative feelings to the surface and gradually release them. I read up on EFT and followed the tapping exercises in the books. However, something was still missing.
The Missing Piece
I have always loved being a student. You could probably tell from this short narrative how much of a geek I could become when I find things I am interested in. While I have been learning so much through the years of reading and reading on these "mind stuff," I couldn't help but wish that there's an actual class or workshop here in the Philippines where I can learn all these things experientially - you know, the classroom-and-teacher kind of setup.
One day, I was chatting with a friend over lunch about the Law of Attraction, and she introduced me to this thing called ThetaHealing®. She has been taking up the courses for a few months then. She sent me links to articles and videos and websites about ThetaHealing®, and that's when I got all excited and explored the possibility of attending the classes. I took my first ever ThetaHealing® course in May 2013.
The Paradigm Shift
I don't recall where or when or how it started, but I can surely say that my life has shifted so much since I took my first ThetaHealing® class. I had better control of my thoughts, thus having more control over my experiences. I treated each person and experience in my life as a blessing, and therefore life has been "very good" to me. Most importantly, I found my life's calling -- to become a ThetaHealing® practitioner.
My main goal in creating this blog is to share to you bit by bit how ThetaHealing® has shifted my life, all for the highest and best. I do hope that this serves as an inspiration to the world, not only to come and experience ThetaHealing®, but more importantly to raise awareness that truly, there is an enlightened way to live the life of your dreams!
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