To BE or Not To BE... That is Really the Question

When I was in high school, I read an amazing magazine article that I would consider my first encounter with the Law of Attraction. I didn't think much of it before, but now I realize why it had so much impact in my life that I remember it now, almost 20 years later.

The article was saying how most of us act out this I-look-happy-but-deep-inside-I'm-crying drama in our lives, and how most people would say that they just put up a facade in order to look like they're okay. The writer goes to say that in reality, if you feel crappy inside and you treat yourself like trash (Yes, such brave, outspoken writing!), people see through your so-called facade and treat you the exact same way you treat yourself (i.e., like trash).

This is also true with the way you treat other people, and I have experienced it over and over again. I learned that if you give someone a "label" (for example, you see one person as lazy or another person as stupid), that is how you would treat them and consequently, that's how they will act towards you.

Here's the ironic part. In our world, we seem to do this the other way around. Let me explain.

Most of us programmed with the need for our thoughts and feelings to be JUSTIFIED in order for them to be rendered valid or accepted. Therefore, we see the circumstances around us as the cause of our thoughts and feelings (effect). How often do we say things like:

"I'm always in debt, that's why I feel poor."

"My boss is an a**hole, that's why I hate my job."

"My partner does not understand me, that's why I am lonely."

"Their customer service sucks, that's why I'm pissed."

"I'm fat, that's why I hate my body."

And how often have we considered looking at it the other way around?

"I feel poor, that's why I'm always in debt."

"I hate my job, that's why my boss is an a**hole."

"I'm lonely, that's why my partner does not understand me."

"I'm pissed, that's why their customer service sucks."

"I hate my body, that's why I'm fat."

Why is it so much easier to put the blame on something or someone else rather than take responsibility for our own thoughts and feelings? Would you believe me when I say that the reality is we bring upon ourselves the circumstances we experience based on our thoughts and feelings, and not the other way around?

Remember that your thoughts are creative forces. The subconscious mind is a great manifestor of the things you hold to be true. Therefore, when you say you're pissed, your subconscious mind will bring to your space situations that would 1) prove it to you, 2) hold that thought or feeling firmly in place and 3) make it "real" in your life.

The Be-Do-Have Paradigm
So how do we change this? It's time to shift our thinking and make the Be-Do-Have paradigm work in our lives.

***This explanation of the Be-Do-Have paradigm is derived from my all-time favorite book, Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch.***

Most people believe that if they HAVE a thing (more money, more time, a partner), they can finally DO a thing (start a business, travel, get married) and then ultimately BE a thing (generous, happy, contented). Consider reversing this program and realize that it all starts with BEING.

Therefore, if you choose to BE happy (or generous, contented, etc.), you DO things from that place of being, and that ends up bringing you the things you choose to HAVE.

You want to be happy? Then choose to be. It's as simple as that. Remember too that with ThetaHealing®, this belief can also change on the subconscious level instantly! :)