The Opposite of Certainty

One of the greatest lessons I have learned in my spiritual journey is the lesson of certainty. I have shared this learning in a previous post. It definitely is the most powerful antidote to failure.

Now I’d like to dive into its polar opposite. The opposite of certainty is not fear or doubt or worry. Rather, these 3 emotions are encapsulated in what I believe to be on the other end of the spectrum of certainty. It is called ATTACHMENT.

Many people have the tendency to be attached – to people, to places, things, events and even names that have meaning to us. But you know what we’re mostly attached to? Our desires.

And why not? If you have been wanting something so badly all your life, how can you not be attached to it?

Simply thinking about what you desire does not necessarily equate to being attached to it. Attachment has more to do with three main questions we ask pertaining to our desires:

• Will it ever come?
• When will it come?
• HOW will it come?

Being attached to the outcome of your desire including the when and how of it perpetuates feelings of fear, worry and doubt. If you have faith in God and the universe, if you are certain, the possibility of not getting there will not even cross your mind. And more importantly, you wouldn’t care when and how it manifests in your life.

I have to admit I am still a work in progress when it comes to attachment. It is a huge shift in thinking to be able to detach yourself from asking these three main questions. I remember asking God “What else do I need to do? What other beliefs do I need to clear? What else am I still doing or not doing in order to get to my manifestations?” The next thing I heard was, “Does it always have to be a belief that needs to be cleared? Do you really need to keep your mind busy asking all these questions? Could it be that at this point all you need to do is ALLOW?”

Attachment to your desires prevents you from:

• Being present in the NOW. Whenever you feel your desires MUST manifest in order for you to be happy, you are missing the happiness that you could be enjoying now. Most people cling on to their desires as if their life depended on its coming to fruition. The clothes you wear, the food you eat, the friends you get to see… did you ever stop and consider that these are proof that the universe is abundant? That the universe has and will always provide? Practice feeling good all the time, and seeing good in all people and things you see and experience. Doing so will allow you to vibrate high enough to be in harmony with the things you desire.
• Gratitude. Do you know people who seem to be complaining a lot, wishing they were somewhere else doing something else and being something else? Isn’t it tempting to tell them “Did you even thank God that you are still alive?” Prayers of gratitude are the most powerful prayers, because you are expressing your knowing that what you ask for is ALREADY GIVEN.
• ALLOWING. This is very huge when it comes to manifesting your desires. The biggest chunk of our attachment to our desires is to the MEANS in which it will manifest.

I Saw The Sign
How many of you have uttered “God, give me a sign” in their lifetime? How many times have you actually said it?

Everything happens for a reason. There’s no such thing as coincidence. A song on the radio, a word overheard, a road sign, a book, a restaurant menu… everything you see and encounter in your everyday life came to you for a reason whether you are aware of it or not. I am a strong believer of that. It is when we ASK for a sign that more often than not disserves us.

We are not asking for a sign. We are asking for PROOF. We want God or the universe to prove to us that our prayers are being heard. We want to know if we are getting closer to manifesting our desires. On top of it all, we want to know HOW our desires will be manifested in our life.

When we obsess over the MEANS our desires will manifest, we are creating a roadblock for our desires to come to us. What we are doing is limiting the possibilities of its manifestation. It’s short of saying, “It’s okay, universe. I got this.”

Be Detached
Practice detachment from when and how your desires will manifest. Moreover, be okay with whether or not you get what you desire.

What does this mean? Come from a place of KNOWING and ALLOWING. Know that no matter what happens, you are okay. That you are abundant and that you are always supported in all your endeavors. This is your only job. God, the universe does the rest.